Joy can be result of our achievements, outside forces or joint effort with other people. While being a kid, this external force is often our family, so struggling to make us happy. They do lots of sacrifices and we as consumers just accept their love and all the material goods they can afford. Kids joy is expressed without any additional preprocessing and filtering, you can see it clearly. I still do not understand why kids even need social networks, since their straightforward way of expression, so common in childhood, allows them to share what they feel. That is why it feels they are so alive, direct and somehow spontaneous.
With young people approaching more conscious and grown-up life much transformation happening. We start to underestimate our achievements, asking from ourselves higher and higher results; perceive many things as granted. While mixed with high criticism, those things even get more sophisticated. Moreover, we afraid to boast about the achievements. For our inner soul, that makes so much for getting what you have now, it is a trauma. Efforts that are not noticed, are not nurtured. So how to support ourselves, how to appreciate small things?
I see the following two steps:
- Being thankful for all the joy moments and everything we have now. Noticing these moments and respecting yourself for making those moments happen.
- Sharing these moments and your joy with others. Being able to express without any sense of shame, that you had good time or you had a good achievement.
First step is the basis. What you feel inside is what matters. Not to feel any shame for the good times you had, being truly glad for yourselves and others involved.
Second step is being able to share your joy. Without having a feeling, that you boast or exaggerate the situation. It is really easy to make a post in the social network and even some portion of people might envy you, the others might be happy for you or even get motivated! I personally believe, that something that was achieved by you is especially worth sharing. E.g. going to a conference, where you present your work, etc. Sharing good moments with people you love can be also certain gesture of appreciation. One wise women told me that even if only 1 person benefits from the post, it was worth posting it.
The stronger you become mentally, the more you are open to share more with people taking a responsibility of dealing with consequences. Not to share only positive information, but also inconvenient one.
Your voice is what can make dramatic change. In all of its forms. Bloggers share their views with hundreds thousand people every day, so why not to be a bit more open and starting sharing more with a small circle you have, especially with joy
P.S. My turn to share my joy: the featured image is shot that I am personally proud of. It was made while being in Boston for Christmas, 2017. Guys made a performance where they taught people to dance, the crowd of people got an extreme pleasure of watching that got depicted on the shot.
6.05.2018 ~ Luiza