“Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out. Sometimes they need a little nudge, a little direction, a little support, a little coaching, and the greatest thing can happen” Pere Carrol
People have good ability to follow the expectations of other people. This is the simplest scenario to follow: to underperform, when you are not given enough trust. Parents thinking, that their child is not talented enough will not put much effort to open his existing talents and loose many opportunities to grow a clever child. How many times in your life, you were put down and given not enough trust or underestimated? It happened to me, not often, but enough to take the lesson.
My article will be a short personal story, that taught me how to support yourself no matter what others are saying. This is the only way to go forward, before anyone will give you the trust. The trust usually comes later and easier, when you have already proceeded, started to believe in yourself and achieved some results
In the family my father was strict and keeping household when needed. He always thought that the food should have been simple and one should have carefully used the ingredients, not letting any food to be spoiled. Since 14 I started to be deeply interested in cooking and started to cook myself, without any guidance, following the recipes from the internet. I have tried to prepare hand-made wraps, that turned out the first time into hard wraps, that my brother helped me to finish:) Then I continued with the dumplings, that fell apart and became a mix of meatballs and the pastry. I tried to make Tatar “mantu”, that are huge dumplings on the stream. All these attempts were not the perfect from the first time and my father asked me to stop cooking at all. He was telling that I can not cook and I should not waste the ingredients. That time I felt sorry and my motivation for cooking was decreasing. He did not support me at all with my attempts. With time, I stopped noticing his words and continued to cook, getting the pleasure from cooking and believing that I will improve and nobody has the right to stop me. Since 10 years, I am cooking almost by intuition, inventing new recipes with healthy style. If I did not support myself that time, I could lose my passion in inventing new recipes. Still, my father loved me and still loves without any intention to hurt.
This was only one story, but it illustrates the fact, that one to go forward should stop listening discouraging statements, that are not making any good for you. Don’t believe bad predictions and make your own. People are not ideal and it is easy to put down someone and not to find encouraging words. I want to say you, do not give anyone the right to say who you are and what you are worth and what you can. It is up to you to decide.
Imagine you are in the beginning of your career in the business. This time, you are not given much trust probably from the investors and clients. Nobody possibly will support you at the beginning, but to start making a good service, you need to support your belief about your abilities to make that. You need to forgive and to learn from mistakes, to learn how to talk with the client. You need to gain the trust slowly. When you business starts to cherish, you can start getting more support. But at the beginning you had to do it for yourself.
Another tool except supporting yourself, would be to learn to encourage people around you for good changes. To give people slightly higher the credit of trust, so that they will make that true. This way, you can make some wonders happen, by giving someone trust. Yes! Dont except the support from the outside always, but be ready to support people around you! By support I do not say only general words: “You will make it, etc”, but I mean treating people as well, as they are great, interesting and have much to say and do. Believe me, you will notice how their actions slowly will start to match your words.
With love, Luiza <3